I guess this is a really long story, so should tell you to go ahead and make a coffeor tea before going into this long journey with us.
We, my husband and I have wanted a baby for so long, its just ridiculous, but maybe this could really happen.
I guess the start should be the story of us, our beginning and where we are now. Let me start from our first meeting.
One night, when I was about 19 years old, I went with a friend to the night club called Billboards, I know it’s amazing that the club is still open some near 20 years later, but I hadn’t really been out to nightclubs as I was quite sheltered as a child, after growing up in a family that had an alcoholic father, it just wasn’t the done thing. So finally I was allowed out, and out I went.
My friend Alison told me to just smile at the guys, ’cause if you don’t they’ll hit you’ so I was smiling at everyone, just in case. I then proceeded to get completely drunk. So when I came across D, I of course smiled, after all I didn’t want to get hit. He was a young sweet looking guy, who really couldn’t dance to save his life but he at least tried. He had on a t-shirt along with a jacket, remember this was the days of Miami Vice and the t-shirt/jacket combo was all the rage. He was probably as drunk as me and I guess with my inexperienced life, I had no idea that after meeting him that we would be together forever but that’s what happened. Its actually amazing that we even stayed together after I left him sitting at the table with my friends while I tried to pick up other people. Alison came to find me to tell me ‘what are you doing?, He’s still at our table’. Whoops and back I went. I guess originally I played the game of cat and mouse because I actually liked the unattainable guy that all the girls go for at the club. As it happens he lived around the corner from My Man and after seeing him, I dropped him off realising this was not going to happen, stopped at a phone box, called my man and went to see him. After that, it was history, we were meant to be together.
I must admit that even when together I did do some things that I am not so proud of and I won’t go into in case people read this and I haven’t spilled everything to them yet, although I’m sure that they know and I’m just in denial.
So we eventually got engaged and married some 4 years later. We tried straight away to have a family but things just weren’t happening. I went to see a gynecologist who couldn’t find anything wrong. She referred us to a fertility expert but she was on maternity leave! We then got to see her locum which turned out to be her husband! So he sent D to have his semen tested and it came back not so great. Instead of sending him to have it redone, he just went ahead and started the AI (artificial insemination’s) which were never going to work. However we kept on paying and he kept on doing them. I finally got feed up with paying and having no results or answers that we changed hospitals and doctors. I don’t know if it was just our luck but we ended up meeting with Dr Mac Talbot, which I completely love. He had D do another test and we both had our bloods done. Within a week we knew what was happening, unlike our previous doctor, mac kept us informed. We then started doing GIFT (gamete interfallaopian transfer) procedure. We possibly did about 4 of these procedures before Mac advised us that this wasn’t going to work and it was time to try IVF, so with hopeful hearts we were referred to Epworth hospital which Mac also worked out of. After our first IVF (in vitro fertilisation) treatment we had no fertilisation which was heart breaking as I had 14 eggs retrieved. We then knew the next course of action was ICSI (intracytoplasmic sperm injection). We then completed another 2 cycles using this procedure. Sadly we only ever had a chemical pregnancy which went no where. We then used out last frozen embryo but still nothing.
After a couple of years we were going to go back to IVF but decided to try naturally for a while. I think I knew deep down this was never going to work but we tried anyway. We started taking a herbal medicine that we paid something ridiculous for, it tasted like crap but I think my cycles became better and there was a small change in D’s results. We tried taking vitamins until we rattled but still nothing. We again changed doctors to see if there was anything new out there that we hadn’t tried. I had a hysteroscopy but it showed nothing. We were down to just D’s semen as the problem I guess. Although I am now nearing 39 years of age, my eggs are I’m sure deteriorating at a rapid pace.
Don’t get me wrong, we have had a great life together, sure we have had our ups and downs but I think more ups than downs. We have known the love of both our families children, nieces, nephews, great nieces and great nephews, friends children but they are still not ours. It is getting to the point were our nieces and nephews are starting their families and we are still without. We continue to love our pets and have had many over the years. But nothing can replace the wanting of children.
We started to investigate adoption both international and local but the wait is so long to go through all of the paper work. We are still waiting just to start, it is about a 3 year wait.
So I came up with an idea and luckily for me, D had agreed and instigated the first step.
We had decided to do DIY donor sperm! We have chosen a Target and he has agreed, we will be taking about it today with him to discuss all area’s. There will definitely not be NI (natural insemination) but AI (artificial insemination). Hoever ever after 5 attempts and not a late period in the picture we have decided again to move on. We are about to undertake infant Adoption Training as well as start to go back through IVF. We have had our medical tests done a gain and are back on the roller coaster called life.
So thats Me & D, I will keep the story going as it unfolds and hope that this could finally be it.
